Being a new grandparent is one of life's genuine bonuses. It differs from a cash bonus, which most of us rarely receive during our working years, in two ways. First, it is not earned, and second, there is no hike in our income tax.
A new grandchild can bring out unexpected reactions. The most common experience is the sense that life goes on despite the fuss and bother of day-to-day living. The infant and the new grandparent can share moments of wonderment when both are rendered speechless. It is enough for each to just gaze at the other.
Mixed in with a sense of awe and gratitude are the quiet murmurings of pride and even ownership. "Why not? My genes are part of it, too," and immediately the games begin. "It's got your eyes and my nose."
But if the ownership instinct brings warmth and joy to the new grandparent, it may lead to some minor misunderstandings.
Thus, two tips:
First, respect the new parents' central role in caring for the new treasure. Help them learn the ropes, but don't try to take over. Next, respect your fellow grandparents' role in the sharing. Don't compete with them.
Other than that...ENJOY!
© 2012 Created by Myles Bristowe.
